Perfection has the wrong focus.  Your focus should be on love.  People who have a heart full of love usually don’t have a big problem with doing wrong things all the time; instead, they focus on doing the loving thing.  When you focus on doing the loving thing, sins of omission and commission usually aren’t a problem.

When the focus of your spirituality switches to love, the shackles of perfection fall off.  You throw away your spiritual scorecard, and love becomes the controlling force in your life.

If you become obsessed with spiritual perfection, it won’t be long before you are ensnared in the web of self-righteousness.  It’s an easy trap to fall into, and usually you don’t know you have been caught.

The trap is elegantly simple.  It works like this.  Since you want to be perfect, you are totally committed to being right all the time.  People who agree with your way of thinking and living are right.  People who disagree are wrong.  You now are the self-appointed judge who determines what is right and wrong for the entire world.  Unfortunately, the chance you are always right, and the rest of the world is wrong, is zero.

The only escape from self-righteousness is a double dose of humility and love.  The dose of humility reminds you that you are not the one who decides what is right and wrong for the rest of humanity.  The dose of love reminds you that true spirituality is based on love rather than on always being right.

The need to be right is a sign of spiritual immaturity.  When you give up your need to be right, your focus shifts to love.  Your heart becomes filled with God’s love, and you pass that love on to everyone.  You no longer obsess on whether you are doing the right thing; instead, you focus on whether you are doing the loving thing.  This change in focus liberates you from self-righteousness.

Excerpt from :

Zero Tolerance To Negative Thinking : Good-by Depression - Hello Positive Mind

David J Abbott M.D.