Powerful self-talk comes ninety percent from the heart and ten percent from the head.

For most people, emotion is the most powerful component of the language of the mind.  There is a world of difference between saying, “Take this job and shove it,” compared with saying, “I have decided to quit my job.”  The world of difference comes from the emotional impact of the first statement compared with the second.  The first statement is packed full of emotion and evokes the image of power and self-assurance, and the second statement sounds lame.

Make sure your self-talk comes from your heart rather than just from your head.  Don’t waste your time or do things the hard way by using self-talk that lacks power.

Usually it’s better to state self-talk in positive terms rather than negative.  You want its focus to take you in a positive direction rather than a negative one.

Your self-talk will be more effective if it’s specific and if it uses all of the sensory modalities of the language of the mind.  If it has strong auditory, visual, and emotional components, it will have a greater impact.  Powerful self-talk lets you hear the sound of your dreams while you watch them on the motion picture screen of your mind, and it lets you feel their motivating power.  Positive self-talk allows you to say your dreams, see your dreams, and feel your dreams even before they happen.

Read books on how to write powerful self-talk and take their advice when it’s helpful.  But don’t become enslaved to writing self-talk to a formula that is supposed to work according to the experts.  Sticking to formulas guarantees your scripting will feel stiff and artificial.

Good self-talk is more like poetry than prose.  It should be music to your ears rather than a cognitive assessment of where you are and what you need to do.  The most effective self-talk contains powerful thoughts written into a melody you enjoy singing to yourself all day long.  You repeat it many times each day because it has the ring of truth and moves you in the direction of your dreams.

Excerpt from :

Zero Tolerance To Negative Thinking : Good-by Depression - Hello Positive Mind

David J Abbott M.D.